Planes, Trains, and Automobiles

Two more sleeps. That’s it. Two more sleeps till the day is finally here. Till the ‘next part’ finally starts. It’s been a long wait.

For those of you who don’t know, ‘the next part’ is the part where my favourite person and I get on a plane for 24 hours to start our life together. Not visiting, not a holiday, this time it’s for real. We’ve been waiting a long time for this moment. And I’m SO ready!

I’m also so shitscared. So is she. But we know that feeling is a good thing.

Because this ‘next part’ is asking us to step up. It’s requiring us to put our money where our mouths are, and BECOME the people we want to be. Until now, we’ve been conveniently pushing the hard stuff aside, for when the moment was ‘right’. But now, we can’t keep the moment of truth at a safe distance, where we can look at it, and talk about it, too far away to actually touch. Because in two more sleeps, shit gets real. The ‘next’ part will be the ‘current’ part.

We both have big dreams. Big dreams that we both REALLY want. But we know that in order to have our big dreams become our big reality, we need to take responsibility. ‘Because life rarely changes in a positive way without an increase in responsibility’. I can’t remember where I read that, but it lives in my head rent-free most days. If you want the trajectory of your life to change, the amount of responsibility you take has to change, too.

For me, it means growing my business, and taking all the brave action to keep me moving towards the life I desire.

And so, I need to change the amount of responsibility I take. It means doing the things I wasn’t doing before. It means being brutally honest with myself, being neutrally observant and reflective with what I’m doing, and seeing where I’m getting in my own way. Recognising patterns, or where I’m listening to bullshit stories that are keeping me safe, or where I’m denying the world of the gifts I should be sharing. It means being willing to try, and fail, at new things. It means being vulnerable. It means taking REAL responsibility for myself.

And I’m not just talking about business. I’m talking about life in general.

If I have a problem, and I’m feeling a bit gross with life, nobody is coming to rescue me. And I hate to break it to you my love, but nobody is coming to help you, either. If you want shit to change, you gotta step up and change shit.

It may not always be our fault when we arrive in places that don’t feel good, but it’s always our responsibility to RECOGNISE we’re in the wrong place. It’s our responsibility to get off the train, check the map, and bravely ASK FOR HELP so you can get to where you actually want to be going!

I realised a number of years ago that I was on the ‘wrong train’. I had stayed on it for way too many stops before getting off at the end of the line. And when I DID finally disembark, I took responsibility for myself, and got on a train heading where I want to go. It’s not always been the smoothest of rides – I’ve had to change trains a few times since then, and I’ve definitely gotten back on the wrong train too (once or twice), but I’ve learned a TONNE about travelling through this life, and know that now, I can read that map like a mofo, and that makes me so much more confident and happier, even if I’m not at my destination yet.

I see so many people on the platforms complaining that they don’t like where they are, yet refuse to get on the next train that pulls in, or take the advice from other travellers or the station guards. If only they knew that a few stops away could be everything they ever wanted, they just need to pay the fare and step up into the carriage!

So, I ask you today to have a think about where you’re not allowing yourself to pay the fare and step up. Where could you take more responsibility in your world, so you can end up in the right place?

Maybe it’s not even a train you need. Sometimes we need an entirely different map from what we’re used to. We get so caught up in thinking the same way, we forget there’s more than one way to travel!

Speaking of, I can’t wait to drive my car again!

Two more sleeps!!